WHY MEN WON’T COMMIT

If there’s one thing that pains me to hear from my female clients, it’s that the guy they’re dating is scared of commitment. In the dating stage it may look like inconsistent contact, last minute get togethers or booty calls. In a relationship, it may mean waiting to hear “I love you,” not moving in together or not getting engaged.

Yes ladies, you will meet men who don’t want a relationship or marriage…just yet. But it’s not even most men. In fact, men want love and a long-lasting relationship just as much as women do.
Sometimes love comes down to a numbers game. It’s unrealistic to think that every man you meet is at the right stage in his life to want a serious relationship or even marriage. It doesn’t make him a jerk. It just means you have to keep looking.

Here are five reasons men won’t commit:

1. He’s not ready.

Not being ready for a serious relationship doesn’t mean that he’s scared of commitment. It’s literally because he’s not ready. Hey may still want to play the field, concentrate on his career or needs to focus on family obligations. Men take their role as provider very seriously, and I’ve worked with many men who only casually date and put off serious relationships because they’re not where they want to be financially. He may also want to have experiences or work on himself first before he gets into a serious relationship. Timing matters, and a guy who’s not ready is not going to be able to give you what you need in a relationship.

2. He’s terrified of making the wrong choice.

Men are scared that the stories they hear about wedded hell are true: the ball and chain, not getting laid anymore, being with a controlling woman, etc. He may have doubts about your behaviors, like you being overly jealous or how you handle your anger. He may have thought his ex was “The One” but made the wrong choice once already. The pain and doubts may keep him from committing.

3. He can’t see a future with you.

A guy may not know if you’re going to be his future wife, but at least he knows if it’s even a possibility. He may be keeping you around because he likes you for the short-term, but he doesn’t see himself with you for decades. Plain and simple, he’s just not that into you.

4. He’s scared of rejection.

Ever feel like your man keeps you at arm’s length? Has a wall up or don’t feel as connected as you did when you first started dating? Again, most men want to feel connected to their woman, but to deepen intimacy requires one to be vulnerable. That can be downright scary. He may be thinking, Will she really accept me? When she knows me, will she still love me and want to be with me? If he’s not sure of the answer, he may keep from committing. You can reinforce the things you admire and accept about him to decrease this fear.

5. He’s scared of divorce.

We’ve heard horror stories about divorce. And if a guy has gone through his parents’ painful divorce and he hasn’t worked through it, he’s probably still scarred. Committing involves risk, and some guys may not do so until they’re 100% certain the relationship will work. The thing is, relationships are never a guarantee. But both of you have incredible influence over the outcome of your future, and that may mean getting some relationship education from a workshop or a professional.

For those of you waiting for your man to commit, it’s up to you to decide how patient you can be. At least have the conversation with your man about your future to see if your visions and goals align. If not, then move on to someone who will want you in his future.

WAYS TO GET OVER A BREAKUP

As the old song says, “Breaking up is hard to do,” but how do you pick up the pieces after a relationship is over?

Here are 3 ways to soften the blow and get back to being your unbeatable self!

1. Don’t Try To Replace Him

A lot of women make the mistake of instantly dating once they break up with a guy. They work on the replacement theory, and that having someone is better than having nobody. The minute their relationship is over, they’re on the hunt for a new guy. They can’t stand the thought of being alone. They believe that by jumping into a new relationship, they won’t have to feel the pain that comes with the old one ending. The truth is the pain of a break up is good for you, and something you NEED to experience.

2. It’s Like A Tunnel – You Have To Go Through It

While you’re processing the end of a relationship, you grow into a better, stronger version of yourself. You need to take the time to figure out what you’re feeling, why you’re feeling it, and understanding what went wrong with the relationship. You don’t want to make the same mistakes again, and this is your chance to learn.
This is your chance to develop as a woman. You should embrace it. As much as it hurts, this time is so important and special.

3. Empower Yourself

You need to empower yourself after a relationship. Give yourself the time you deserve for YOU. Start understanding yourself better. Reconnect with yourself, and who you are. When you start to understand what makes you tick, you become the most powerful version of yourself possible.

You go from being “we” to “me” again.

Don’t be afraid of the pain. It’s there to help you grow. It’s going to show you what you need to do next.
Today, I want you to watch this video, and share it with any friends who might be going through the same thing.

Draya Michele Engaged to NFL Star Orlando Scandrick

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Basketball Wives L.A.” star Draya Michele has announced that she and Orlando Scandrick are engaged. The Dallas Cowboys cornerback, 28, popped the question with a stunning 7-carat diamond engagement ring.

The on-again, off-again, on-again couple called it quits recently, but Orlando suddenly popped the question last Thursday evening at a movie theater in Sherman Oaks, CA.

“He told me to dress casual and we ended up going to where we had our first date,” Michele tells PEOPLE of the special night out at Arclight Cinemas. “He was acting so weird and so nervous. When he walked up to the bar he tripped and fell over some chairs! I was thinking ‘What in the world is wrong with him?’

“He got down on one knee and as soon as he started to talk I got nervous and couldn’t help but to laugh hysterically. I was laughing and crying at the same time.”

As for the ring, Orlando’s famous jeweler, Jason of Beverly Hills, revealed to TMZ the ring’s value of $400,000!

“It was a pleasure designing this ring with Orlando. He was one of the most detailed oriented clients,” Jason Arasheben, CEO of Jason of Beverly Hills, said in a statement. “He wanted to make sure the ring was perfect and she couldn’t be happier.”

Draya and Orlando have been dating for roughly two years, and she has been quite vocal in the past about wanting a huge rock on her finger (peep video below). AS IF the size of a diamond is any indication of a man’s loyalty. Don’t believe me? Just ask any married man who has splurged on that massive rock for his wife, only to find himself constantly creeping’ on the low with a THOT he met on Tinder. Just saying…. It happens. More times than we may like to admit. Good luck to Draya and Orlando, tho!!

This will be the first marriage for Michele, 30, and her husband-to-be. Draya announced the news to her followers on Instagram by showing off her massive rock backed by a bed of red roses.

Michele is already mom to a 12-year-old son from a previous relationship. Scandrick is also dad to 5-year-old twin girls. The couple briefly split two months ago due to hectic schedules.

 

Chris Brown, Karrueche Argue Over Interviews About his Baby Mama

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Chris Brown and Karrueche Tran have taken their breakup mess public yet again – this time in the comment section of theshaderoom.com’s Instagram page.

It all started with the web site’s post of Tran’s “Access Hollywood” interview.

Breezy got wind of it and came for his ex in the comment section, saying she needs to stop talking about him and his baby mama in interviews:

Karrueche refused to let that stand. She clapped back with a pic from her Internet show “Vanity Series” and a response addressing each point spewed in his rant:

The exchange concluded with Brown doing a 180 and apologizing.

 

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3 SUMMER DATING RESOLUTIONS EVERY SINGLE GIRL NEEDS TO MAKE

Memorial Day has come and gone, which means summer has started in the eyes of everyone who owns white denim. Technically, we have a little bit longer until the official start of summer, though. So, you have time to make your summer dating resolutions, single girls. (Yes, summer resolutions are a thing! They’re just like New Year’s resolutions, but for the summertime. Get it?) Here are my suggestions for what you should resolve to do.

Say yes more
You’re single. You have a world of possibility in front of you! You just need to step out there and embrace it! Do that by saying “yes” as much as possible. Even if the situation feels like a challenge or a little out of your comfort zone, assess what the risk is of saying yes and if it’s not too bad, go for it. For example, let’s just say a guy who’s way balder than what you’re typically attracted to asks you out for a date. Your gut reaction is probably to refuse him because you could never have a future with someone who looks like him. I say going ahead and accept the date because what are you really risking? Two hours and a nice meal? Not a big sacrifice. And the reward could be great! Bald men can be very charming!

Show more skin
I mean this literally and symbolically. Put yourself out there and be a flirt. Maybe that does mean actually showing more skin. Or it could just mean getting a little giggly with the man you’re with. Don’t be coy this summer. Be direct and loud about your intentions. Open yourself up by sending the message that you’re single and looking!

Date your friends
Single girls, don’t spend your entire season on the hunt for a man. You’d be missing out on one of the best part of life—friendship! Treat your friends as well as you treat the men you date. Plan events with them, dress up and make your time with them feel like special occasions. They may not be “the one” for you, but your friends are certainly the ones who make you feel confident on downer days, celebrate with you when you have a win and love you no matter what. They deserve the kind of thought and energy you put into your dating life. So, set aside at least one night a week as a friend date night.

Iggy Azalea Gets Engaged To Nick Young Of The Los Angeles Lakers (Video)

Nick Young popped the big question and Iggy Azalea said yes.

The Los Angeles Lakers player got down on one knee for the big moment. Iggy was quick to give Nick the answer he wanted to hear.

It was a great way for Nick a.k.a. Swaggy P to celebrate his 30th birthday on Monday, June 1.

The baller and rapper have been dating since 2013.

Check out the video below.

 

Source: TMZ Sports

Congratulations! Nia Long Engaged to Ime Udoka

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Nia Long is ready to walk down the aisle!

The beautiful actress has remained silent since sparking speculation of an engagement after she was spotted wearing a glitzy band on her ring finger recently. Now a rep for Long has confirmed that she is engaged to her longtime boyfriend Ime Udoka.

Udoka is a former NBA player and San Antonio Spurs assistant coach. He and Long have been romantically linked for over five years, and they have a son, 3-year-old Kez. Long has another son, Massai, from a previous relationship. Kez is Udoka’s first child.

Throughout their courtship, Long was frequently met with questions about when she and Udoka would tie the knot.

In a 2013 Madame Noire interview, Long spoke about her relationship with Udoka:

“I don’t know [if we’ll be getting married anytime soon],” the actress said in 2013. “You know, he’s assistant coaching for the Spurs, so we spend a lot of time going back and forth to San Antonio. It’s tough. It’s hard. It’s a challenge. But we are committed to one another and our babies. You know, you just do what you gotta do. It was a great opportunity for him, coming from being a player. It was like the perfect way to parlay into his coaching career and so I have to support that.”

During a press run for her 2013 film “The Best Man Holiday” – Long told Rolling Out:

“You have to have an open heart to be vulnerable to accept it when it does come. I think the more success you have as a woman, you kinda go, ‘Well, I don’t really need a man, cause look—I have everything I want,’ but the truth is you do need a partner because at some point in your life you’re not going to want to walk alone.”

Congratulations to the couple!

 

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