SINGLE GIRLS, YOU NEED TO SAY “YES” MORE

Hey single girls, I have some advice for you and it’s really simple. Just say “yes” as much as possible. That’s it. It’s a small word that’s going to have a huge impact on your life if you say it more often. I promise. So many of my single girlfriends say they want love, but shut themselves off to it by saying “no” or “yes, but,” more than they say a plain and simple “yes.” Here’s why I think they need to change that and I think you need to, too.

New experiences

Saying yes will get you out of your single girl rut and into a whole new world of experiences. You’ll wind up at weird workout classes, parties where you don’t know anyone and seeing parts of your hometown you’ve never explored. Saying yes will bring you all kinds of new and wonderful experiences and new experiences are where you meet new people. If you keep going to the same places and doing the same things, you’re just going to meet the same people. And if you’re single now, it seems to me like you’re not clicking with the people you’re meeting. So, take a risk and meet new people.

You never know

You’re single, which means you haven’t found the right guy. So, I think we can both agree that you’re not an expert on who would be perfect for you. You don’t know. When I suggest possible set ups to some of my single friends, they’ll response with, “He’s not my type,” or “I can tell from his picture that he’s not for me.” Um, there’s no way they can know that without meeting him. Their “type” clearly isn’t working for them if they’re single. Sometimes what we need isn’t what we think we need. So, just say yes to pushing your boundaries. You never know what you’re going to get.

Positivity attracts positive things

Saying yes more makes you a more positive person. And being a positive person brings positive things into your life. I know I sound like a hippie, but I fully believe that. Think about the happiest, most fulfilled people you know. I can guarantee that they’re the most positive people you know. Start working your way toward being more positive so you can join their ranks. Saying yes as much as possible is a great first step.

Who has had a door open for them just by saying “yes?” Tell me about it in the comments.

Wiz Khalifa, Amber Rose Cancelling Their Divorce (Report)

 

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Amber Rose and Wiz Khalifa are reportedly scrapping plans for their divorce after deciding to reunite and move on with their marriage.

Even though the model attempted to end the union when she filed, the two never finalized it. A source told Hollywood Life Tuesday that they don’t plan on changing that.

“They don’t care if they are officially divorced or not. They’ve been so busy being a married couple that they both forgot about that stupid piece of paper.”

After a bitter back and forth between the two that played out on social media, Amber admitted on Instagram last week that she still loved Wiz. Since then, they were spotted getting cozy at an Easter party at the home of Tamar Braxton.

The insider went on to say that the couple is focused on progressing and rebuilding their relationship.

“Amber and Wiz are unconventional. They don’t care about a piece of paper and they definitely aren’t about to let a piece of paper define their relationship. They’re letting their hearts guide and direct them. And their hearts are leading them in the arms of each other.”

While they’re still officially living apart, word is they are together all of the time and basically live together.

Amber filed for divorce back in September of 2014 amid rumors that she caught him cheating. They had been married for a little more than a year. She recently said in an interview with Power 105.1’s The Breakfast Club that she jumped the gun in trying to call it quits for good.

 

Kandi Burruss on Business, ‘RHOA'; Celebrates 1 Year of Marriage

kandi-burruss-todd tuckerKandi Burruss opened up to Essence about branding and being a businesswoman, but she’s about her married life as well, having celebrated her one-year anniversary with Todd Tucker.

She talked about having a brand on “The Real Housewives of Atlanta” and the struggles with being about her business while on a reality show.

“Well, sometimes it does get kind of crazy because the show, they don’t care about your brand, they care about the show so you do have to always try to stay consistent about the things that you have going on during the time of taping,” she said.

She added, “For me, I always plan to have a lot of stuff going on throughout the year.  That’s just my life.  If they’re taping my life, then they are going to see some business happen because that’s what’s true to my life.”

Nevertheless, she had the opportunity to get away from “RHOA” and being a businesswoman when she took a trip to Paris, planned by Todd for their anniversary. Speaking of which, check out what Mr. Tucker had to say in this Instagram video:

3 DATE IDEAS YOU’VE NEVER THOUGHT OF

In every long-term relationship, there comes a point where you hit a rut. You go to the same places, do the same things and sometimes even have the same conversations over and over again. As much as you love your boo, you can be a little bored by your relationship. Well, I say don’t settle for the blahs. You’re extraordinary and so is your man. So, get your relationship back up to the extraordinary level by mixing it up a bit in the date department. And I know you’re going to say that you’re both so busy, you don’t have time to go on, let alone plan, an extravagant date. Well, screw extravagant! Here are three totally easy, everyday dates that you’ve never thought of. They’re different thae your typical date, but barely take any time!

Going to the doctor

I know what you’re thinking…how could this possibly be a date? But, I was at my dentist’s office the other day and saw an elderly couple who were being sweet with each other in the waiting room. It was really adorable. It got me thinking, this could be a date. I mean, I was in that waiting room for at least 45 minutes. Add in commute time, and you’ve got about an hour and a half of potential date time if you bring your boo. You two can actually have some peace and quiet together in that waiting room and really talk. It’s not conventional, but if you work it right, it could be a great way to squeeze a date into a normal day.

Pre-work date

Believe me, I know how careers can get in the way of romance time. My job sometimes feels like it’s 24-7 and I know my honey feels the same way. But, you have to do your best to carve out time to be with your significant other. Going on a quick date before work is the perfect way to do it. Wake up an hour earlier than you normally would and spend that time with your man. Maybe you can go for a walk, work out together, sit in Starbucks sipping coffee or even snuggle up and watch your favorite show together. Treat that time like a real date and it will be one.

Superstore

Here’s a two-birds-one-stone date idea. Take your man to Target or Wal-Mart with you when you have to run errands. But, don’t just run the errands. Have fun in store together. There are unlimited things you could do in the store. You could read greeting cards and try to find the funniest ones. Make puns out of DVD titles. Put on weird outfits. Buy weird snack food and sample it. Take an extra hour in the store to play around. It’ll be fun, new and totally kick the long-term blahs to the curb’

Damon Dash Accuses Rachel Roy of Threatening Him and Stealing $20k in Jewelry

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For a dude who comes off like he’s totally got it all together and talks serious smack about “being in charge,” it’s kind of a shock to hear Damon Dash admitting that he’s the victim of threats on his life by his ex-wife.

Dash, who’s fighting Rachel Roy for custody of their two daughters, 15-year-old Ava and 6-year-old Tallulah, claims, among other things, that she drove drunk with one of the girls, stole diamonds from him, and threatened to cut him with a knife.

In legal documents filed by Jay Z’s ex Roc-a-Fella partner, he laid out some terrifying allegations about Roy, reports TMZ.

In the docs, Dash says Roy threatened his life on several occasions — once by throwing plates at him, and also by pulling a knife on him. He says sometimes the threats came in front of little Tallulah.

Dash paints a “Mommie Dearest” image of Roy — saying he witnessed her driving drunk with Tallulah in the car — and adds he’s heard heated arguments between Ava and her mom … where they call each other “bitch” and get physical.

Roy’s also one helluva a jewel thief, according to Dash. In the docs, he says she stole 2 diamond chains — worth $10k each — and a suitcase. Not your Samsonite either … it’s a Bottega Veneta worth $5k!

And Dash says he’s been blacklisted at Tallulah’s fancy L.A. private school, Buckley … because Roy told the school he’s not allowed to see or pick up their daughter.

On the other hand, Roy has accused Dash of being an unfit Dad for a whole host of reasons. She filed for a restraining order, which was in fact, granted.

 

Amber Rose Lays It All On The Line. Confesses She Wants Wiz Khalifa Back

Amber Rose is through fronting. She wants Wiz Khalifa back in the worst way.

Rose filed for divorce from the Pittsburgh rapper in September 2014, citing irreconcilable differences. Since then she’s been rumored to have been romantically involved with Nick Cannon and Nick Simmons. She also gave a very public twerking session to Chris Brown and posed for a few eye raising photos.

Now it looks all of that was an attempt to get her estranged husband’s attention. The model dedicated her #ManCrushWednesday to Wiz with a social media message leaving no doubt that she wants her baby’s father to come home.

My #ManCrushEveryday you know what it is…. We went wrong somewhere and even if we never ever get back together (Even tho I pray, dream and hope we do) he will forever be the love of my life. The media doesn’t make it easy but f*** them we gotta live for reality and not society. We forever have a bond because we made a beautiful baby from our Love. Through all the ups and downs of our relationship my heart still beats for him every single day. I’m sick of putting on a front like I’m happy without him. I’m not. He makes me happy. He’s the only one who can. Regardless of how our lives Turn out in the long run he will always be the skinny tatted up stoner that has my heart ❤️

Will the public plea work? Only time will tell.

 

WHAT POSTING ‘IN A RELATIONSHIP’ ON FACEBOOK SAYS ABOUT YOU: THE 4 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW

inafbrelationshipFacebook is the ultimate breeding ground for narcissistic behavior. Think about status updates. You’re telling people every little thing that’s happened throughout your day.

I’m going to the grocery store.

So blessed to be with my friends on a beautiful day.

Thinking about buying a new car.

No one cares about the little day-to-day things. This isn’t a put down; it’s an important life lesson. How do you feel when you see someone arguing with another person on Facebook?

It’s tacky isn’t it?

What about when someone is gushing about how in love they are?

Or, the worst kind of narcissist, the kind that complains about life hoping you’ll feel pity for them.

It’s pathetic and it says to the world, “I’m insecure and I need the validation of acquaintances.”

I see a lot of inspirational quotes on Facebook. I see a lot of videos that get reposted on Facebook.

Everybody could use a good quote to get them a kick in the butt every single day. Who doesn’t like a funny video of a cat crawling up a dog’s back in the middle of the day?

But those relationship status couples need to learn a few things like…

1. A Relationship is Beautiful Thing… Between Two People.

If you look at your Facebook friends list, the majority of people on there are Fakebook friends.

Some people feel the need to stay in contact with everyone they’ve ever met, even though they’d never pick up the phone to call that person. These same people insist on shoving their relationship down decent people’s throats.

A relationship is a beautiful, intimate thing. But it’s meant to be shared between two people.

How intimate and vulnerable can you be after you’ve posted; “In A Relationship ☺” for all your so-called friends?

A relationship is private between two people.

I found that narcissists and self proclaimed media junkies love putting themselves up with a picture of their new found relationship and say: “In a relationship.”

I know when you first begin a relationship you want to scream it from the top of a building. You want the world to know you love this person and they love you.

But no one cares about the day-to-day things in your life. Not because they don’t care about you, but because they’ve got lives of their own.

Constantly shoving your happiness in their face is desperate and needy.

2. It’s Trite.

Why are you willing to expose all your frustration with your relationships, to all your fake friends on Fakebook?

Why do people feel the need to broadcast their wins or a complicated relationship situation?

Can you see how it cheapens the bond between you and your partner?

Call your mother. Call a friend (a real friend). These are intimate connections. People who genuinely revel in the joy of your personal victories and that can help you through life’s difficult moments.

We all have our good and bad moments, hard times and great times. Each life gets some sunshine and some rain. But please, keep your issues to your self.

3. The Right to Privacy.

I don’t get it.

Your private life should be private. It really should.

Share your relationship wins and other life milestones with your true friends. I don’t understand the need to tell the world you’re in a relationship, or you’re having difficulty with somebody.

The more you share with strangers the more they get to cast aspersions about your life choices.

Why would you do that?

It’s nobody’s business but yours. It gives everyone and anyone an intimate view into your private life. And the thing is…

Everyone’s got an opinion.

Including…

4. Your Kids.

All the comments you make are recorded for all time on the Internet. Once it’s up, it’s there forever. Not only can everyone on your timeline see it, but one day your children will be able to look you up and see what you wrote.

On the other hand, you should be careful of what you post about your kids. They’ll see that as well and so can anyone else.

I don’t know about you, but my child’s life is private and I don’t believe in broadcasting it on Fakebook. That’s a choice they can make when their adults.

Facebook is no different than high school for adults. Now, the people who once rejected you can validate you. You can now be fake friends with people that once rejected you. You can now think you have all these friends and you can become popular.

That’s why people post status updates because they all crave popularity again.

Validation…

Confirmation….

Popularity.

It’s what this whole game is all about.

It’s kind of sad.

It’s time we started validating ourselves and when we are in a relationship; keep it between the people in the relationship.

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